Wedding Ceremony - What is "marriage"? How to make a wed? How to know about marriage ceremony?
There was no human concept in world, there was no man & woman was created in this world, there was no human families, but "Who" was?
There was "One" in universe, in world, in space, on earth.....in heaven, "Who"? Who was, is & will, forever? Yes, "Allah", Almighty, most powerful having all authorities, I know, we know but who did not know "about that", is not eligible for happiness, but why? I will explain about "bereft", Bound down for life and live as a friend, party, happiness, close companions. It
Allah made plan to create human concept and done that. The man who was created by Almighty Allah, was "Adam". Adam was first man in heaven, who was first human concept who was alone but after his creations, he felt his loneliness then Allah created a woman from Adam. Her name was "Hawwah". There was 1st couple in world "Adam and Hawwah". They were sent on earth for further time till the end of world, when every thing, every human concept, every life will be end from universe. That couple was sent on earth and after some times, "Hawwah" gave a birth and men, women started to spend their lives on earth. Today, we can see millions men and women around us. How was happened that?
Allah gifted Islamic procedure to adopt and obey. Today, we see our parents before eyes and at the time of adult age or when maturity was appeared, a moment of wedding was happened and couple life restarted to live in society. How is procedure to wed? Why is compulsory to adopt a wedding way to live in this world as it is possible without this "formality"? Not, it is not formality, it can be described in details, as under:
1. It should be legalized under the prescribed Islamic rules.
2. wedding is necessary as it's purpose to give birth and causes to increase figures of people and in
this regard, a large of number of people will spend ideal life in society accordingly.
3. when a boy or girl become adult even they are not mature or not, deserve for marriage.
4. Adult couple start to manage themselves for further procedure of society.
5. It is universal truth that in all over the world, wedding or marriage ceremony are happening as it
may legal or illegal but it happen.
6. There are different types ceremonies of in different countries.
7. Islamic people in Asian countries, Pakistan or Indian are the famous and special to hold legal
ceremonies of wedding time in different styles which mentioned as under:
Special Planning before wed:
First of all, an engagement is held by the families even boy and girl are not adult or not because some families like to bound their child to wed in future after reaching at age of marriage, it happens. Fiance relation appears before both families.
At the time of wedding ceremony, there are many moments, were planned and that wedding expresses that it is preplaned ceremony. Wedding Ceremony is happened step by step in few days and completed as under:
First of all, Invitation Cards are printed to join the family and friend members in wedding ceremony.
"Tradition of alkane" (Rasm-e-Hina):
Girl, when her style was decorated at the time of her wedding, her hands or arms even feet were colored in beautiful designed with "Alkane" (Mehndi). Alkane used in wedding, as it is so necessary formality which complets the hapiness of families. It is also examined that every child, girl or woman also used "alkane" Mehndi in her marriage. This is bridal house.
In other side, bride groom, boy's family also manage all formalities to celebrate its step by step as this time is special for them and will not rewind in future for that boy.
Departure of "Barat":
What is departure of barat, or what is barat? It is a team with bride groom. Some people included parents, brothers, sisters friends or other family members are the part of "barat". Actually, "barat" starts to go towards bridal house, for wedding. These days it happening at Marriage Hall, Restaurant or in big house places.
when a team included bride groom, reach at the spot, a warmful receptionists wait for them and welcome them with rose and all streets, houses all corners of that location are decorated with lights, fragrance, singing etc.
After, an important time between wedding couple is ready before all family members/guests.
"Nikkah":
What is nikah? Nikkah is defined in Islamic sentence. Nikkah is way to admit each other to wed. This time, bride and bride groom accept themselves with the concerned of some "Haq-e-Mehar" which specified and compulsory to pay from bride groom to his bride accordingly under the Islamic rules. "Haq Mehar" is baisc right of bride and bride groom has to accept for paying that amount for his bride accorindly under the islamic rules.
After "Nikah" all guest eat food and that team "Barat" return to his home.
First night between bride and bride groom:
On return from "Nikah"/ "barat", Bridal personalty makes more beautiful moments in boy's family. All the family members are very happy till time.
At that night, bride and bride groom meet each other, sometime, it was also strange but great that they watch each other first time but how possible or not, it happens. Adult couple starts their lives and promise to live for ever with each other. They also make plans for their futures. They believe that they now good friends from that time and they always enjoy their all moments. First night of these type couples, always missed in future and a main part of whole life.
And next day a ceremony is also held which maintained by bride groom family. i.e.
"Walima" or Refreshment/lunch or dinner:
These words are used for "walima". "Walima" is service for food to all guest included family members. In this way, all members participated in it and a large number of greetings were managed between each others.
Morals:
These are traditional formalities but one thing is not ignore able, that is "Nikah"."Nikah" is permission to touch the adult couple, under the Islamic policy and after that children birth when happen, it totally reflects that all sons or daughters have parents and responsibilities them. Parents also feed them and complete the all usual necessities for their children till their maturity. It is better in Islamic families.
unlike this, illegal relations between adult couples always create a harmful dangerous. Illegal which is not called marriage, always not missed in future but legal wedding ceremony always missed in good and pleasant words between family members. Indeed, Nikah, Islam is the best and leads towards amnesty in society.
Moreover, it is also pertinent to mention here that there are many groups of religions in all over the world. Every member of own religion adopt his own procedure to wed but legally, it happens and bride and bride groom start their lives.
It is also clear that Allah gave a beautiful gift of "Nikah" for us and if we are Muslim it is pure and clean and straight way to earn his life.
(by Sajid Khuram)